What's Your Type? (Season 2)

I usually like someone, either because I see parts of myself in them in a way that feels sharp due to how precise it is, or because I look up at them so much that I strive to be like them. They are always within a range of spectrum, maybe in percentages as well. One is usually more dominant than the other. And it is quite rare, for me, to feel both at the same level.

If you have read my post on dissecting different types of attraction by leveraging F1 drivers as examples, you might know who my favorite drivers are and why I quite fancy them.

In this post, I would like to elaborate further on this topic. I want to dive deeper into why I feel drawn to certain types of people in my life.

Starting with Lando Norris.

I previously stated that I am physically and emotionally attracted to him. But more than that, I think, essentially I just see fragments of myself in him, a lot. His goofiness, his child-likeness, the way he cares too much about what people think of him, then overthinks and ruminates over them in a way that it almost emotionally paralyzes him. This looks and feels far too familiar to me, that when I look at him, it just feels like I’m looking at a mirror I do not expect to encounter. Maybe that's why, in a way, I feel a strong emotional attraction towards him. Because he feels like home—somewhere so well-known within my psyche like no other.

Going next to Max Verstappen.

I am intellectually attracted to him, I stated previously. I think, for me, he’s like the ideal person in my mind that I could imagine I would want to be like during the course of my life. He is everything I want to be like. His grit, his ‘Fuck You’ mindset, his mental strength, his strong self-esteem, his winner mentality, his resilience. But more than that, also his tenderness and gentleness towards something or someone that is very much close to his heart. The duality is what makes me drawn to him immensely—how he could go from this aggressive bull that strikes everyone in front of him, but also how, when you look at him just a bit closer—more precisely—you’ll see that he is just this free-spirited softie kiddo that just wants to have fun. This goofball that’s freewheeling around the playground when no one’s watching. And for me, that is the real definition of unbearable sweetness.

Last but not least, the one and only, Alex Albon.

With Lando, I dominantly see myself a lot in him. With Max, I mainly strive to be like him. Now, with Alex—and this is a rare one—I actually experience both on the same level, meaning; I see myself a lot in Alex, yet he is also distinct enough that he becomes someone I look up to, someone I strive to be like.

What I see in him that also reflects me, are these things:

How introverted he is; how more comfortable he is with one-on-one conversations rather than with a large group of people; how calm and not-so-loud he is on a daily basis; how serious he could seem sometimes but also very smiley in a way; how soft he looks like on the outside but also how evident it is how clear his boundaries are so people knows when to retreat as a respect towards him; and also, how he just effortlessly makes conversations with him feels cozy in a sense but also profound.

Now, the things that are admirable and distinctive to me, I think, are the way he processes things in his head, the way he makes sense of them, the way he tackles tightrope issues. Then, the way he expresses them outwards—how eloquent and soft-spoken he is. To me, somehow, he just feels safe, assuring, solid, and stable—to the point where if every man on earth were to be like him, I think our world would certainly be a much, much, much better place (LMAO). And it is not even an overstatement. I am being serious. In my eyes, he is truly remarkable. And when I look at him, I rarely feel passionate or giddy or like… I have some butterflies in my stomach or something like that. But, I just feel like something clicks, and that’s it—I found the one (whatever that means).

Quick Fun Fact: The physical attraction I feel towards him might not be as dominant as the other aspects. But I think it gradually grows, as I watch him more, perhaps due to the already intense emotional and intellectual attraction. When I look at him now, I start to feel butterflies and excitement LMAO.

And, and, and…

I do not watch Tennis a lot, y’all. But I know some names, and I have two favorites so far. And now I’m starting to realize the patterns even deeper. I think… in a way, Lando Norris is my Andrey Rublev. And, Max Verstappen is my Jannik Sinner. But Alex Albon? Oh, Alex. He is my anomaly—my outlier. Haven’t found someone like him in Tennis or in real life so far.

So… Conclusion?

• Emotional attraction grows because we feel connected or resonated with someone.

• Intellectual attraction grows because we admire other technical parts of someone else that we want to have for ourselves.

• Physical attraction grows because simply we like the way someone looks. Or there is emotional + intellectual attraction in the background that makes it grow gradually.

Cheers!